Trauma Informed Registered Massage Therapy

that supports nervous system regulation, relieves pain and tension, and helps you reconnect with your body.

This approach is for women who are seeking a thoughtful, collaborative approach to healing, one that honours the pace of the nervous system rather than pushing past it

Co-Regulating Somatic Touch

A fully clothed, nervous system-focused approach that uses intentional touch to support regulation, safety, and the restoration of developmental capacities. Rooted in the work of Kathy Kain and informed by extensive training in Somatic Experiencing®.

Co-Regulating Touch is a fully clothed form of bodywork designed specifically for nervous system dysregulation and developmental trauma. Rather than treating muscles or soft tissue, this approach uses carefully attuned touch to support your nervous system in experiencing greater safety, regulation, and connection. My approach is informed by advanced training with Kathy Kain and years of study in Somatic Experiencing®.
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This approach may be a good fit if you:

  • Feel overwhelmed or easily activated by touch or life.

  • Experience chronic tension or pain that seems connected to stress or trauma.

  • Live with chronic nervous system dysregulation.

  • Have experienced boundary violation, CSA, attachment or relational trauma.

  • Find it difficult to settle, rest, or experience a sense of safety in your body.

  • Feel that traditional massage has been "too much" or hasn't addressed what you're really seeking.

What you can expect in a session:

  • Fully clothed, intentional touch designed to support nervous system regulation.

  • Periods of quiet presence and mindful awareness, allowing your nervous system time to settle and integrate at its own pace.

  • Simple orienting or resourcing practices, woven into the session to strengthen your body's innate capacity for safety, regulation, and connection.

Somatic Massage Therapy

Hands-on massage therapy that weaves traditional therapeutic massage with somatic awareness, helping you reconnect with your body's sensations, boundaries, and inner experience as healing unfolds.

Somatic Massage Therapy combines skilled therapeutic massage with an attuned awareness of the nervous system. While it includes the hands-on techniques of massage therapy, the focus extends beyond muscles and tension to include your body's sensations, protective responses, emotions, and capacity for regulation.

This approach may be good fit if you:

  • Feel disconnected from your body or struggle to notice what you're feeling.

  • Want massage therapy that honours your nervous system rather than working against it.

  • Are looking for a slower, more collaborative approach to bodywork.

  • Feel ready to explore the relationship between physical tension, emotions, and protective patterns.

What you can expect in a session:

  • Therapeutic massage tailored to your body's needs, while remaining attuned to your nervous system's capacity and pace.

  • Gentle invitations to notice sensations, breath, or internal experience, allowing your body, not just your muscles, to guide the session.

  • Space for choice and collaboration, with ongoing consent and opportunities to pause, adjust, or explore what feels most supportive.

Somatic Jaw, Head & Neck Treatment

Hands-on care for the places where stress, posture and muscular tension meet.

The jaw rarely exists in isolation.

When the jaw is chronically tight or clenching has become habitual, the effects can extend through the face, scalp, neck, shoulders and the deeper postural muscles that support the head. Headaches, facial tension, neck pain and that familiar feeling of carrying tension around your head and shoulders can become part of the same larger pattern.

This treatment takes that whole pattern into account.

It combines experienced therapeutic massage with focused work to the jaw, face, scalp, neck and upper shoulders, alongside a somatic approach informed by trauma-sensitive bodywork and nervous system regulation.

The intention isn't simply to make tight muscles feel better for an hour.

It is to help your body find more space, ease and choice.

When tension becomes a way of holding

Many of us learn to hold tension without realizing we're doing it.

The jaw may stay subtly clenched throughout the day. The shoulders may remain slightly lifted. The tongue may press against the palate. The muscles at the base of the skull may work continuously to stabilize the head. The neck may compensate for restrictions elsewhere in the body.

Over time, these patterns can begin to feel normal.

Stress, concentration, prolonged computer use, driving, disrupted sleep, dental work, injury and other experiences can all contribute to habitual muscular holding. For some people, clenching or bracing becomes particularly pronounced during periods of sustained stress.

The body adapts.

Sometimes those adaptations remain long after the original demand has passed.

This is one reason I look beyond the place that hurts.

Rather than treating the jaw as an isolated structure, I consider how the jaw, head, neck, shoulders and postural system are working together — and what your body may be asking for in order to soften some of that effort.

More than a TMJ treatment

There are many skilled practitioners offering massage for TMJ and jaw tension in Toronto.

What makes this treatment different is the way I approach the body.

After nearly two decades as a Registered Massage Therapist, I have worked with thousands of bodies and developed a deep respect for the intelligence of muscular patterns. My work has also evolved through years of study in somatic and trauma-informed approaches, including Somatic Experiencing®, NARM®, Gestalt psychotherapy, IFS-informed work and mindfulness-based practices.

This has changed the way I understand therapeutic touch.

A muscle can be tight because it needs skilled manual treatment. It can also be part of a larger pattern of bracing, protection, compensation or sustained activation.

The two are not mutually exclusive.

Sometimes the most effective treatment is not more pressure. It is better listening.

A somatic approach to therapeutic touch

Somatic work brings attention to your lived experience of your body while we work.

Rather than applying the same sequence or pressure to everyone, I pay attention to what is happening moment by moment — changes in breath, muscle tone, movement, sensation and your overall response to touch.

This can mean slowing down.

It can mean changing pressure.

It can mean staying with an area for longer, moving somewhere else, or leaving an area alone altogether.

You remain an active participant in the treatment. Your comfort, choice and feedback matter throughout.

My somatic training also informs the way I work with the nervous system. The goal is not to force the body into relaxation or to “reset” your nervous system. Instead, the treatment creates conditions that may support greater settling, awareness and ease.

For some people, this makes a meaningful difference in how their body receives therapeutic touch.

The jaw, neck and shoulders are deeply connected

The muscles responsible for chewing and jaw movement work in relationship with the structures around the face, skull and neck. The muscles that support the head and shoulders are also constantly responding to posture, movement and the demands of daily life.

This is why treatment may move beyond the place where you first notice discomfort.

Depending on what your body needs, we may work with:

  • the muscles of the jaw and face

  • the temporomandibular joint and surrounding structures

  • the temples and scalp

  • the muscles at the base of the skull

  • the front, sides and back of the neck

  • the upper shoulders and postural muscles

  • areas contributing to muscular compensation

  • breath and bodily awareness

The treatment is responsive rather than prescriptive.

Buccal and intra-oral jaw work

When appropriate, treatment may include buccal and intra-oral massage of the jaw and facial muscles.

Intra-oral work allows access to muscles that cannot be reached effectively from the outside of the face. It can be particularly useful for people experiencing persistent jaw tension, clenching or restricted movement.

This work is always optional and approached with clear consent.

I will explain what I am doing before beginning and check in with you throughout the treatment. You are welcome to pause, change the treatment or decline any technique at any point.

What else may be included?

Your treatment may include a combination of:

Therapeutic massage
Focused work to the jaw, neck, shoulders and surrounding musculature.

Buccal and intra-oral massage
Targeted work to the deeper muscles of the jaw and face when appropriate.

Scalp and head work
Gentle therapeutic work to areas that may contribute to feelings of pressure, tension or holding around the head.

Gentle facial cupping
Used as an additional hands-on technique where it feels appropriate for your treatment.

Somatic techniques
Attention to breath, sensation, pacing and nervous-system response woven into the treatment rather than added as a separate exercise.

Not every treatment will include every technique.

Your session is shaped around your body on that particular day.

This treatment may be a good fit if you experience

  • chronic jaw tension or clenching

  • TMJ discomfort

  • tension through the face or temples

  • frequent tension-type headaches

  • scalp or head tension

  • neck and shoulder tension

  • muscular tension related to prolonged desk or computer work

  • a sense of constantly bracing or holding through the upper body

  • restricted jaw movement

  • tension that tends to increase during periods of stress

  • a desire for deeply restorative therapeutic care rather than a conventional relaxation massage

You don't need to arrive with a diagnosis.

If you simply know that your head, jaw, neck or shoulders are working harder than you'd like them to, we can begin there.

Why work with me?

I have been a Registered Massage Therapist for nearly two decades.

That length of clinical experience matters.

Over the years, I have learned to recognize that the place where someone feels pain isn't always the place where the pattern begins. I have worked extensively with chronic muscular tension, persistent pain, postural compensation, stress-related holding and bodies that have learned to stay guarded.

Alongside my RMT training and clinical experience, I have spent many years studying the relationship between the body, nervous system, trauma and human experience.

My training includes Somatic Experiencing®, NARM®, Gestalt psychotherapy, IFS-informed approaches, mindfulness and other trauma-informed somatic practices.

I bring these perspectives into my massage work without turning massage into psychotherapy.

The result is a treatment that is both highly hands-on and deeply attentive.

I am interested in what your body is doing, how it has learned to do it, and what happens when we approach those patterns with curiosity rather than force.

Your treatment is not a performance

You don't need to relax perfectly.

You don't need to know what your body is supposed to be doing.

You don't need to explain everything.

You can simply arrive as you are.

I will work with you to understand what you're experiencing, and we'll let the treatment unfold from there.

Sometimes the body needs precise therapeutic work.

Sometimes it needs less.

Sometimes it needs a little more time.

There is room for all of that here.

What to expect

Your first treatment begins with a brief conversation about what you're experiencing, your health history and what you'd like support with.

We'll talk about the areas that are bothering you and any relevant history of jaw tension, headaches, dental work, injury, clenching or neck and shoulder discomfort.

I'll explain the treatment before we begin and discuss whether intra-oral work or other techniques may be appropriate.

You remain clothed except for the areas being directly treated, and your comfort and consent are checked throughout.

There is no expectation that you tolerate a particular technique simply because it is considered therapeutic.

Good treatment is collaborative.

A note about jaw pain and TMJ concerns

Massage can be helpful for muscular tension surrounding the jaw, neck and shoulders, but not all jaw pain is muscular.

If you are experiencing significant or unexplained jaw pain, changes in your bite, locking of the jaw, acute dental pain, swelling, numbness or other concerning symptoms, assessment by an appropriate healthcare or dental professional may be important.

Massage can be part of your care without needing to be the whole answer.

Give your head and jaw somewhere to soften.

If your jaw has been carrying more than it needs to, your body may be ready for a different kind of attention.

Somatic Jaw, Head & Neck Treatment is available at Embodied Life Co in Toronto's St. Lawrence Market neighbourhood.

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Not sure which approach is right for you?

You don't need to know which approach is right before reaching out. During our consultation, we'll explore your goals, your nervous system, and your relationship with touch to determine where to begin. For some people, Co-Regulating Somatic Touch provides the safest foundation before transitioning into Somatic Massage Therapy. For others, Somatic Massage Therapy is the most appropriate starting place. The path is always guided by your unique needs and capacity.

Your body is not a battleground.
It is a doorway. A remembrance.
A sacred home.